A Freebie Worthy of Deebye

[LemmingofGlory]

Has anything that I have said here not been true?

You've said things that are overwhelmingly naive. To wit:

"Sex outside of Marriage is just plain wrong." justified to Mith by a glib "It just is." What'd you do, chicken out of logic class? I'd like to see you tarred and feathered. Then maybe someone will mistake you for an ostrich and... *laughs evilly*

"And I may be Naive, as you say, but it has been my experience from observing the Married couples that I see around me that have gone through messy break-ups because they never took the time to get to know one another before they got married."

And the logic train explodes when one observes that the right point in a relationship to have sex does not depend on a social construct called "marriage." Even if one assumes that when a relationship ready for marriage is ready for sex, it's not necessarily true that a relationship is never ready for sex before that. As much as you want it to be, your requirement of "marriage must be before sex" is not a necessary condition.

The problem is exactly as you say, however: people not taking the time to really decide whether a long term committment to this person is a good idea. Personally, I think one of the biggest problems here isn't sex, but ignorance of one's own feelings. No matter how long you put off sex, if you're clueless when it comes to your own emotions you're bound to make some really bad choices. In particular, I think limerence is a major contributor to bad relationship decisions.

-Lemmy