06-02-2005, 06:11 PM
As far as sex and relationships go I would venture that monogamy is far more important than waiting until wedding vows are exchanged.
And now that I've dabbled my toes in this thread I think I'll just jump in with both feet.
Doc's first few posts are loaded questions. Our society's views on bragging and sexual prowess make answering difficult.
Someone that answers "Yep, done that, and that, oh, and that too. I guess you can just call me a sexual Tyranosaurus" is either lying, or bragging.
And anyone that admits to not bringing or experiencing "ulitmate satisfaction" may be viewed as less than a whole person in our society.
I believe, as Occhi said, that kiss-and-tell is a no-no. Talk with your partner about sex, explore with each other, research if you like, and, as Doc said, porn is not the type of "research" we hope you refer to.
Three of the top things that cause marriages to end: Sex, money, and communication. Too much or a lack of any of these is bound to cause trouble.
On feathers and the ostrich: One way to define crossing the line into immorality comes when you are having sex with or because of the object and not just enhancing sex with it. I an aware that there are all sorts of specific examples where people would regard objects or the use of objects that are used to enhance sex as immoral. Please remember I was generalizing here.
My opinion on sex-ed in schools: send a note home with parents outlining what will be included in the program before allowing the children into the program. Sex-ed should begin at home. Sex-ed in schools should teach anatomy, what changes in a maturing body, risks of intercourse, diseases, pregnancy, contraception (not the distribution of contraceptives!), and the benefits of abstinence.
Shadow hit the nail on the head regarding rape. Rape is the use of sex as a tool to dominate and humiliate. I would add sexual pleasure in some individuals is enhanced or may only be possible if the "sexual partner" can only be described as a victim.
My personal opinion on sex: It should never be regarded as casual. Wait until you feel you've found the right person to have it with. You and that person should share connections on many levels. Sex can be quiet, powerfull, naughty, nice and everything in between. Above all it should be an intimate and sharing experience. If you can't replace the word "sex" with the meaningful usage of the phrase "make love" I would suggest waiting.
Off topic but regarding Doc's marble in the oatmeal:
Badgers? Badgers!? We don't need no stinking Badgers!! :w00t:
And now that I've dabbled my toes in this thread I think I'll just jump in with both feet.
Doc's first few posts are loaded questions. Our society's views on bragging and sexual prowess make answering difficult.
Someone that answers "Yep, done that, and that, oh, and that too. I guess you can just call me a sexual Tyranosaurus" is either lying, or bragging.
And anyone that admits to not bringing or experiencing "ulitmate satisfaction" may be viewed as less than a whole person in our society.
I believe, as Occhi said, that kiss-and-tell is a no-no. Talk with your partner about sex, explore with each other, research if you like, and, as Doc said, porn is not the type of "research" we hope you refer to.
Three of the top things that cause marriages to end: Sex, money, and communication. Too much or a lack of any of these is bound to cause trouble.
On feathers and the ostrich: One way to define crossing the line into immorality comes when you are having sex with or because of the object and not just enhancing sex with it. I an aware that there are all sorts of specific examples where people would regard objects or the use of objects that are used to enhance sex as immoral. Please remember I was generalizing here.
My opinion on sex-ed in schools: send a note home with parents outlining what will be included in the program before allowing the children into the program. Sex-ed should begin at home. Sex-ed in schools should teach anatomy, what changes in a maturing body, risks of intercourse, diseases, pregnancy, contraception (not the distribution of contraceptives!), and the benefits of abstinence.
Shadow hit the nail on the head regarding rape. Rape is the use of sex as a tool to dominate and humiliate. I would add sexual pleasure in some individuals is enhanced or may only be possible if the "sexual partner" can only be described as a victim.
My personal opinion on sex: It should never be regarded as casual. Wait until you feel you've found the right person to have it with. You and that person should share connections on many levels. Sex can be quiet, powerfull, naughty, nice and everything in between. Above all it should be an intimate and sharing experience. If you can't replace the word "sex" with the meaningful usage of the phrase "make love" I would suggest waiting.
Off topic but regarding Doc's marble in the oatmeal:
Badgers? Badgers!? We don't need no stinking Badgers!! :w00t:
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The United States has become a place where entertainers and professional athletes are mistaken for people of importance. Robert A. Heinlein