Love

[Saxywoo]

That feeling you get in the bottom of your stomach when your pulse races and your eyes dilate when you see this person... this is lust.  Unless your willing to die for this person and give UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, then its only a phase.  Sorry to break it to you  :P .  The Greek language best describes love in five different ways:

Aros - Erotic love
Philo - Brotherly love
Agape - Unconditional Love

...  :(  oh crap...  Mind having a complete blank-out.  Oh well.  I'm sure this isin't what you want to hear, but desite that nagging feeling in your heart telling you this is for real and not the same feeling you get when you look at nudie magazines or in the girls locker-room, I'd place your feelings for this person in the Aros category of love, and until you honestly know how she feels about you, your feelings are only betraying yourself.  Take a chance and ask her if she'd like to spend some time with you.  Once you get to know her, then you can surmise rather it is really love or not  :D .

My Reply

I'm no linguist, but I thought that was Latin! Well, you learn something new everyday.


My .02
Be careful about wanting to spend all of your time with her. She may be creeped out and say "get lost." That's when the stalker status comes into play for you. You don't want that.

If you do start spending time together, don't think that things are going to take off right away. Though I am unsure about your age, I've noticed that there are a lot more people that are ready and willing for a quick roll in the sack, but don't want the emotional side to a relationship. If that does happen and she takes off, don't beat yourself up for it. Someone like that is not work dying for. But the important thing to do in that case is learn from it. Learn what you did wrong/warning signs that you missed.

The fact that there is that physical attraction is only the first step. Does she also attract you intellectually? If yes, then great! If not, I'm sorry to tell you that it's either infatuation or lust. Either way this thing goes, be prepared to be content just having a friendship. But the second that you start thinking along the lines of a "friend with benefits," warning sirens should go off in your head and it's time to pull up on the stick (in aviation terms - not the other way...).

No matter what happens, and where this goes, good luck. That's my .02

SaxyCorp
(happily married with 2 kids)