03-09-2006, 06:11 AM
Doc,Mar 8 2006, 11:27 PM Wrote:Oh. And to add more fuel to the fire... Women expect special laws to protect them, but also make sure these laws do not apply to them.
Case in point. Where I live, there are some very strict deadbeat dad laws. If you are a man, and miss some child support payments, they can repo your car, seize your bank accounts, garnish your wage, and arrest you and toss you in jail.
However, these laws apply to men! There are no deadbeat mother laws for the women that lose custody of their kids to their husbands, but then refuse to pay child support, and very little is done to punish the women, because somehow, in spite of being deadbeat mothers, they are somehow made out to be the victim in these cases, and somehow it's never their fault they missed a few payments. The father is just being an "oppressive male" who is continuing to be abusive and controlling even though the relationship is over. There are even support groups for women who have lost custody of their kids and have to pay child support, support groups that fill the woman's head with garbage about why she shouldn't have to pay and why she shouldn't pay. But if men had these same organisations, oh dear God, we would never hear the end of it.
So, to sum it all up... When a woman asks for child support, it is because she is a woman... And she needs the money to take care of her kids. It is expected. It is her right... But a man asks for that same money, and he is being abusive and controlling and intruding on a woman's right to live her own life free of male tyranny.
Now that I think about it, it really is a whale of a double standard. The whole situation needs to be cleaned up.
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That would be a strong point if women were paid the same wages as men in America. I don't want to come off as some screaming liberal about the issue, but the difference is a real problem. And its not only in the high end executive jobs that women make less money than their male counterparts. In fact, the pay descrepency is greater with 'low income' jobs than it is at the higher end.
Now, are deadbeat moms a problem? Yes. And do they deserve to be punished? Yes. But until women have a fair shot at making the same money as men, its unfair to hold them to the same strict payment standard.
Cheers,
Munk