03-08-2005, 05:26 PM
You have my deepest sympathies.
A person like the one you describe usually cannot be reigned in and controlled by reasoning (from you, your boss, his mother, or the Pope). Violence and other mischief is out of the question. Unfortunately, the only solution is to get away from him. No amount of money is worth the physical and mental anguish you have detailed here. You have a couple of options:
1. Convince your boss that this guy is a sociopath (tape recorder idea), and get another assignment.
2. Quit and look for another job. If you can seriously put 40 hours a week into your job search, it will certainly pay dividend much faster.
3. Stay on, while you look for something else. This will mean more pain. If this is your choice out of necessity, take a long shot, and stand up to this guy. Tell him you will not put up with his behavior and things will have to change (pound the table a few times). I'm not naive enough to think he will have a change of heart. However, most bullys are just cowards deep down, a show of mental strength might temporarily turn the tables.
Good luck to you.
A person like the one you describe usually cannot be reigned in and controlled by reasoning (from you, your boss, his mother, or the Pope). Violence and other mischief is out of the question. Unfortunately, the only solution is to get away from him. No amount of money is worth the physical and mental anguish you have detailed here. You have a couple of options:
1. Convince your boss that this guy is a sociopath (tape recorder idea), and get another assignment.
2. Quit and look for another job. If you can seriously put 40 hours a week into your job search, it will certainly pay dividend much faster.
3. Stay on, while you look for something else. This will mean more pain. If this is your choice out of necessity, take a long shot, and stand up to this guy. Tell him you will not put up with his behavior and things will have to change (pound the table a few times). I'm not naive enough to think he will have a change of heart. However, most bullys are just cowards deep down, a show of mental strength might temporarily turn the tables.
Good luck to you.
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