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First of all, thank you for destroying my argument with that reply ;). I completely agree with you when you say that just because you are a minority, you don't have the right to play the sympathy card. I can assure you that that wasn't my intention when I wrote my post. What I was trying to accomplish was, as I stated at the beginning of my post, to try to give people an idea of what life is like for a homosexual. I guess you would agree with me when I say that we have to deal with a lot of crap that gets thrown our way. Straight people don't have to deal with this kind of crap. That's why it pisses me off when straight people bash homosexuals and make statements about us, because they donât really know how things work out at the other side of the fence. By writing about this stuff, I was trying to remove that fence and give people some insight on how things really work. I can understand that it may have struck you as if I was trying to play the sympathy card.
Cultural brainwashing. You can either look past it, or not put up with it.
Believe me, I am waaay past the stage where those kinds of comments struck a chord in me. I couldnât care less about other peopleâs opinion about homosexuality. Heck, I hang around with some âfriendsâ from Latinamerica in College that are openly homophobic. Obviously, they donât know I am homosexual, and they donât have to know either. This leads me to your next comment:
Personally, I can't stand gay people making it a point that they're gay. To me, it's shuffling the sympathy cards and dealing a hand. You wouldn't introduce your Black/Hispanic/Asian girl/boyfriend as such at a party. So why would you introduce your sig other as your gay/lesbian sig other? Just making out by the punch bowl tells the crowd that you're dating him/her. Or that you just like kissing people at parties.
I never tell people I am homosexual. Simply put, thereâs no reason for them to know. However, you cannot live under a rock all your life and keep pretending that you are something else. You cannot be acting like you fancy the opposite gender all day long because then, how on earth are you going to find a partner? At some point in life you have to tell some people. And thatâs where your real friends step in. I assume that you have at least 1 or 2 friends who are very close to you, and you have enough trust in them to tell them about your sexual orientation. Those friends will offer you a very small window through which you can breathe and be yourself. Those friends will be the ones that wonât raise an eyebrow when you are at a bar with them and you suddenly feel the need to start hitting on a gay-looking guy. I suppose you have such friends, and I also suppose that just like me, when you are hanging around with them you feel as if a giant weight had been lifted from your back. And by the way, I too cannot stand gay people that make a point that theyâre gay ;).
I'm curious to know why. You don't have to post it or even tell me if you don't want to. Was it the fear of ostracization by friends and family? Did you feel wrong, like you were going against everything you ever knew or had been taught? Or a combination?
A combination of both, but you need more background to understand why. Iâll explain it more clearly in a PM.
First of all, thank you for destroying my argument with that reply ;). I completely agree with you when you say that just because you are a minority, you don't have the right to play the sympathy card. I can assure you that that wasn't my intention when I wrote my post. What I was trying to accomplish was, as I stated at the beginning of my post, to try to give people an idea of what life is like for a homosexual. I guess you would agree with me when I say that we have to deal with a lot of crap that gets thrown our way. Straight people don't have to deal with this kind of crap. That's why it pisses me off when straight people bash homosexuals and make statements about us, because they donât really know how things work out at the other side of the fence. By writing about this stuff, I was trying to remove that fence and give people some insight on how things really work. I can understand that it may have struck you as if I was trying to play the sympathy card.
Cultural brainwashing. You can either look past it, or not put up with it.
Believe me, I am waaay past the stage where those kinds of comments struck a chord in me. I couldnât care less about other peopleâs opinion about homosexuality. Heck, I hang around with some âfriendsâ from Latinamerica in College that are openly homophobic. Obviously, they donât know I am homosexual, and they donât have to know either. This leads me to your next comment:
Personally, I can't stand gay people making it a point that they're gay. To me, it's shuffling the sympathy cards and dealing a hand. You wouldn't introduce your Black/Hispanic/Asian girl/boyfriend as such at a party. So why would you introduce your sig other as your gay/lesbian sig other? Just making out by the punch bowl tells the crowd that you're dating him/her. Or that you just like kissing people at parties.
I never tell people I am homosexual. Simply put, thereâs no reason for them to know. However, you cannot live under a rock all your life and keep pretending that you are something else. You cannot be acting like you fancy the opposite gender all day long because then, how on earth are you going to find a partner? At some point in life you have to tell some people. And thatâs where your real friends step in. I assume that you have at least 1 or 2 friends who are very close to you, and you have enough trust in them to tell them about your sexual orientation. Those friends will offer you a very small window through which you can breathe and be yourself. Those friends will be the ones that wonât raise an eyebrow when you are at a bar with them and you suddenly feel the need to start hitting on a gay-looking guy. I suppose you have such friends, and I also suppose that just like me, when you are hanging around with them you feel as if a giant weight had been lifted from your back. And by the way, I too cannot stand gay people that make a point that theyâre gay ;).
I'm curious to know why. You don't have to post it or even tell me if you don't want to. Was it the fear of ostracization by friends and family? Did you feel wrong, like you were going against everything you ever knew or had been taught? Or a combination?
A combination of both, but you need more background to understand why. Iâll explain it more clearly in a PM.
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They said to play it louder than Hell
We promised that we would
When losers say it's over with you know that it's a lie
The gods made heavy metal and it's never gonna die
- Manowar