It's really interesting to see all of you arguing about homosexual marriages, some of you in favor and some of you against it. However, I bet none of you know from firsthand experience what is like to be homosexual. I am homosexual, and I will try to explain as best as I can what is like to be homosexual and the way it affects your life. I hope some of you who think lowly of homosexuals will read what I have to say here and perhaps start thinking different about us.
One thing that always amuses me is how people talk about homosexuality as if it were some kind of disease or plague. The truth is I never choose to be homosexual, much in the same way you did not choose to be straight. Just think about it for a moment. When you were in your early puberty, did you wake up one day and suddenly proclaimed: âHey, Iâve decided that I want to be straight! From this day onward Iâll get a hard-on whenever I look at a gorgeous chick!â No, you didnât. It was something that came out naturally and before you knew it, you were staring at that cute little girl in your class all day long like an idiot. The same happened to me, but instead of a girl I was staring at a boy.
At my short age of 20, I think Iâve dealt with much more depressions than most of you. You see, one of the biggest problems a homosexual faces is coming out. Just picture this: you, as a regular and straight person, have friends, a family, etc. That is, your loved ones, the kind of people you cannot live without. Now, imagine that even though you are straight, you had to tell every single one of them that you are, in fact, straight, and risk losing their friendship, support, and love. How would that feel? Do you think it would be hard to do such a thing? And even if you tell them and they decide to accept you (albeit after a huge shock), you become paranoiac. If some of them refuse to go out with you to a party, to the movies, or whatever, you immediately think that they must hate you because you are straight, but are afraid to tell you that. So, even though they have assured you that they accept you the way you are, thereâs always doubt left in you. Replace âstraightâ with âhomosexualâ and you will get a clear picture of what my life seems like every other day.
On top of that, another terrible shock comes when you find out that you are homosexual. Having been raised in a very macho environment (my father is very macho, if thatâs how you call that in English), I almost committed suicide when I found out that I was homosexual. To this day my parents donât have a clue about my sexual orientation, and I donât plan on telling them anytime soon, at least until they finish paying for my education. And even then, I guess Iâll send an email to them, because my father could literally try to kill me if he finds out because he is really homophobic. I donât know about you guys, but I really love my parents. They are an important part of my life, and the mere thought of losing their love makes me wish to be dead.
However, despite all of this, the biggest problem a homosexual faces is the realization that you will never, ever be able to have children and raise them in a ânaturalâ environment. Even grimmer to me is the following question, which pops in my mind at least once or twice a day: How the hell am I going to explain my parents that Iâll never be able to give them grandsons? Couple this with the fact that I am the only male son in my family, and you know the kind of problem I am in. You can say that there are ways to get around this, like adoption or surrogate mothering. However, I donât believe in adoption and the very idea of having an unknown woman lend me her belly to carry a child she doesnât want just for money makes me sick.
Besides all of this, there are the usual gay-bashing comments that pop up in almost every single conversation with your straight friends that donât know about your sexual orientation. One friend of mine whom I was considering coming out to once said that he would prefer to have a mentally retarded child than a homosexual child, because at least the mentally retarded one would die quicker. Needless to say, I never came out to him and promptly forgot about his existence.
And then, thereâs the big mess with religion. I firmly believe in God, and I pray to him a lot. My life in this world has been very easy in the sense that I've always had what I wanted, my parents are well on their way to becoming rich, I am on my junior year of college and have an almost perfect GPA, and I have good friends that know I'm homosexual and support me. Every time I listen or read about someone saying that God hates homosexuals, I just think about my 'good' life and come to the conclusion that there's no way God can hate me. Remember what I said above? That I didnât choose to be homosexual? I just keep wondering how God can hate someone for something he didnât choose to be in the first place.
I don't believe in the Church, obviously because they are against homosexuality. It would be utterly stupid to align myself with an institution that openly expresses its hate against people that suffer from my same problem. And thereâs also the Bible, the Holy Book, which contains passages that condemn homosexuality. The truth is the Bible is so hopelessly outdated that you can barely rely on it anymore. We cannot take every single word the Bible says literally. At least I donât. And I make emphasis in the word âliterallyâ, as the Bible does contain very interesting passages that deal with how a good son of God should act and behave.
The following link will illustrate this point more clearly. I highly doubt the veracity of this story, but the actual contents of the letter are interesting (and amusing).
http://www-users.cs.york.ac.uk/~susan/joke/laura.htm
From religion we naturally step into marriage. Marriage is supposed to be a holy institution between a man and a woman and blah blah blah. If a few hundred years ago you would have told me that I couldnât get legally married, I wouldnât have complained. I would have been happy with my civil union or my mind-conceived marriage. However, nowadays marriage isnât about a holy institution anymore, itâs more about the rights and benefits you get for being legally married. And you know what? I want my slice of the cake too.
But donât get me wrong, Iâm not that selfish. I firmly believe that the main purpose of a marriage or any kind of union is full commitment between the two persons that are involved in it, be it a man and a woman, two men or two women. For me, nothing in this life can beat the satisfaction of giving everything you can to the one you love. However, if being legally married entitles you to some form of benefit or whatever, then why canât I receive those benefits too? In my eyes, the fact that straight couples can receive these benefits and homosexual couples canât strikes me as discrimination. Discrimination against a big group of people that, once again and just like you, didnât choose to be the way they are. And if you think about it, saying that people cannot marry because of their sexual orientation would be no different than saying that people canât marry because they were born on Monday instead of Tuesday.
I sometimes find ironic that the very same people that like to boast about America being the land of the free are the same ones that oppose homosexual marriages with great passion. Thatâs why the outcome of all this is very important to me, because as someone already said, America is the big fish in the pond. Whatever they do, the rest of the fishes are watching. And usually some of the smaller fishes follow on the footsteps of the big fish and try to imitate what the big fish is doing. I really hope this situation gets settled. Just 50 years ago, if people knew that someone was homosexual, they would punch him in the street. At least now thereâs some degree of tolerance. I expect (and hope) that in fifty more years this situation will go from tolerable to accepted.
And lastly, there is the big moral issue behind same-sex marriages. If I recall correctly, it think it was Nystul who, in his infinite intelligence, sweepingly proclaimed that same-sex marriages are morally wrong. I can honestly tell you that I sympathize with you. You canât really understand homosexuality until you get to know a real homosexual. I have seen the reactions of several of my friends when I told them I was homosexual. One of them, after having known me for two years, told me that the week after I came out to him, he spent every single night in his bed going over my situation, trying to make it âclickâ in his mind. Itâs really tough information to assimilate all in one go. Thatâs why I really hope someone dear to you turns out to be homosexual, so that you can at least try to understand all the implications of this condition.
Returning to the moral issue, tell me Nystul, is it morally wrong for people to bash other people just because they have a different sexual orientation? Is it morally wrong to just downright hate them before even getting to know one of them just because of that? Is it morally wrong for President Bush to try to screw the lives of millions of homosexuals who love each other and would like to marry to get some extra benefits under the law? Is it morally wrong to screw the life of people who are ALREADY screwed since birth and have to deal with a constant stream of crap throughout their lives? I think so. I hope that you think a bit about your statement. You are basically telling a lot of people that their existence as human beings is morally wrong.
I hope at least some of you find this post informative and start thinking differently about homosexuals.
Have a good day.
One thing that always amuses me is how people talk about homosexuality as if it were some kind of disease or plague. The truth is I never choose to be homosexual, much in the same way you did not choose to be straight. Just think about it for a moment. When you were in your early puberty, did you wake up one day and suddenly proclaimed: âHey, Iâve decided that I want to be straight! From this day onward Iâll get a hard-on whenever I look at a gorgeous chick!â No, you didnât. It was something that came out naturally and before you knew it, you were staring at that cute little girl in your class all day long like an idiot. The same happened to me, but instead of a girl I was staring at a boy.
At my short age of 20, I think Iâve dealt with much more depressions than most of you. You see, one of the biggest problems a homosexual faces is coming out. Just picture this: you, as a regular and straight person, have friends, a family, etc. That is, your loved ones, the kind of people you cannot live without. Now, imagine that even though you are straight, you had to tell every single one of them that you are, in fact, straight, and risk losing their friendship, support, and love. How would that feel? Do you think it would be hard to do such a thing? And even if you tell them and they decide to accept you (albeit after a huge shock), you become paranoiac. If some of them refuse to go out with you to a party, to the movies, or whatever, you immediately think that they must hate you because you are straight, but are afraid to tell you that. So, even though they have assured you that they accept you the way you are, thereâs always doubt left in you. Replace âstraightâ with âhomosexualâ and you will get a clear picture of what my life seems like every other day.
On top of that, another terrible shock comes when you find out that you are homosexual. Having been raised in a very macho environment (my father is very macho, if thatâs how you call that in English), I almost committed suicide when I found out that I was homosexual. To this day my parents donât have a clue about my sexual orientation, and I donât plan on telling them anytime soon, at least until they finish paying for my education. And even then, I guess Iâll send an email to them, because my father could literally try to kill me if he finds out because he is really homophobic. I donât know about you guys, but I really love my parents. They are an important part of my life, and the mere thought of losing their love makes me wish to be dead.
However, despite all of this, the biggest problem a homosexual faces is the realization that you will never, ever be able to have children and raise them in a ânaturalâ environment. Even grimmer to me is the following question, which pops in my mind at least once or twice a day: How the hell am I going to explain my parents that Iâll never be able to give them grandsons? Couple this with the fact that I am the only male son in my family, and you know the kind of problem I am in. You can say that there are ways to get around this, like adoption or surrogate mothering. However, I donât believe in adoption and the very idea of having an unknown woman lend me her belly to carry a child she doesnât want just for money makes me sick.
Besides all of this, there are the usual gay-bashing comments that pop up in almost every single conversation with your straight friends that donât know about your sexual orientation. One friend of mine whom I was considering coming out to once said that he would prefer to have a mentally retarded child than a homosexual child, because at least the mentally retarded one would die quicker. Needless to say, I never came out to him and promptly forgot about his existence.
And then, thereâs the big mess with religion. I firmly believe in God, and I pray to him a lot. My life in this world has been very easy in the sense that I've always had what I wanted, my parents are well on their way to becoming rich, I am on my junior year of college and have an almost perfect GPA, and I have good friends that know I'm homosexual and support me. Every time I listen or read about someone saying that God hates homosexuals, I just think about my 'good' life and come to the conclusion that there's no way God can hate me. Remember what I said above? That I didnât choose to be homosexual? I just keep wondering how God can hate someone for something he didnât choose to be in the first place.
I don't believe in the Church, obviously because they are against homosexuality. It would be utterly stupid to align myself with an institution that openly expresses its hate against people that suffer from my same problem. And thereâs also the Bible, the Holy Book, which contains passages that condemn homosexuality. The truth is the Bible is so hopelessly outdated that you can barely rely on it anymore. We cannot take every single word the Bible says literally. At least I donât. And I make emphasis in the word âliterallyâ, as the Bible does contain very interesting passages that deal with how a good son of God should act and behave.
The following link will illustrate this point more clearly. I highly doubt the veracity of this story, but the actual contents of the letter are interesting (and amusing).
http://www-users.cs.york.ac.uk/~susan/joke/laura.htm
From religion we naturally step into marriage. Marriage is supposed to be a holy institution between a man and a woman and blah blah blah. If a few hundred years ago you would have told me that I couldnât get legally married, I wouldnât have complained. I would have been happy with my civil union or my mind-conceived marriage. However, nowadays marriage isnât about a holy institution anymore, itâs more about the rights and benefits you get for being legally married. And you know what? I want my slice of the cake too.
But donât get me wrong, Iâm not that selfish. I firmly believe that the main purpose of a marriage or any kind of union is full commitment between the two persons that are involved in it, be it a man and a woman, two men or two women. For me, nothing in this life can beat the satisfaction of giving everything you can to the one you love. However, if being legally married entitles you to some form of benefit or whatever, then why canât I receive those benefits too? In my eyes, the fact that straight couples can receive these benefits and homosexual couples canât strikes me as discrimination. Discrimination against a big group of people that, once again and just like you, didnât choose to be the way they are. And if you think about it, saying that people cannot marry because of their sexual orientation would be no different than saying that people canât marry because they were born on Monday instead of Tuesday.
I sometimes find ironic that the very same people that like to boast about America being the land of the free are the same ones that oppose homosexual marriages with great passion. Thatâs why the outcome of all this is very important to me, because as someone already said, America is the big fish in the pond. Whatever they do, the rest of the fishes are watching. And usually some of the smaller fishes follow on the footsteps of the big fish and try to imitate what the big fish is doing. I really hope this situation gets settled. Just 50 years ago, if people knew that someone was homosexual, they would punch him in the street. At least now thereâs some degree of tolerance. I expect (and hope) that in fifty more years this situation will go from tolerable to accepted.
And lastly, there is the big moral issue behind same-sex marriages. If I recall correctly, it think it was Nystul who, in his infinite intelligence, sweepingly proclaimed that same-sex marriages are morally wrong. I can honestly tell you that I sympathize with you. You canât really understand homosexuality until you get to know a real homosexual. I have seen the reactions of several of my friends when I told them I was homosexual. One of them, after having known me for two years, told me that the week after I came out to him, he spent every single night in his bed going over my situation, trying to make it âclickâ in his mind. Itâs really tough information to assimilate all in one go. Thatâs why I really hope someone dear to you turns out to be homosexual, so that you can at least try to understand all the implications of this condition.
Returning to the moral issue, tell me Nystul, is it morally wrong for people to bash other people just because they have a different sexual orientation? Is it morally wrong to just downright hate them before even getting to know one of them just because of that? Is it morally wrong for President Bush to try to screw the lives of millions of homosexuals who love each other and would like to marry to get some extra benefits under the law? Is it morally wrong to screw the life of people who are ALREADY screwed since birth and have to deal with a constant stream of crap throughout their lives? I think so. I hope that you think a bit about your statement. You are basically telling a lot of people that their existence as human beings is morally wrong.
I hope at least some of you find this post informative and start thinking differently about homosexuals.
Have a good day.
The gods made heavy metal and they saw that is was good
They said to play it louder than Hell
We promised that we would
When losers say it's over with you know that it's a lie
The gods made heavy metal and it's never gonna die
- Manowar
They said to play it louder than Hell
We promised that we would
When losers say it's over with you know that it's a lie
The gods made heavy metal and it's never gonna die
- Manowar