Need help with Necromancer

[Brista]

Lord Seis or whatever his name is droped a rare bone wand, someone took it despite me being the only necromancer, oh well.

This is completely normal. To the other player the wand represents 25K from the vendor or useful trading material

The best way to approach the rather grabby culture is, I am quite sure, to partake. I have never heard anyone who doesn't partake do anything other than complain about it. I usually grab first then ask someone who is both playing an appropriate class and who is friendly if they'd like it when we're in town and trade it to them there. (Don't drop it - someone else will grab it)

There are alternatives, private games where people agree to share fairly, but it is actually very unusual for people not to be rather selfish with items (which makes it all the more fun to grab it and then give it away :) )

Your merc will catch up and your wand is not really very good I'm afraid

Keep us posted :)