10-30-2003, 08:16 PM
(This post was last modified: 10-30-2003, 08:37 PM by Occhidiangela.)
We each have our own styles, I suppose, and your opinion is worth listening to. :) PS: thanks for the elaboration on the build, and to think I just gave away a Todesfalle a month ago. Doh! What was I thinking?
You should have seen what I originally wrote, or maybe not. :rolleyes:
The real harshness was in the opening sally, so the tone setter was in the title. The title most likely would be taken by anyone as having been delivered with a certain "tone of voice." As Pren noted, the reaction to that tone could be predicted to create an "ears get red." It is a wake up call, and given the sloppy nature of internet discourse, a wake up call is needed, IMO.
Gekko points out correctly that this is not just any old forum, and those who want to treat it as such need not bother. In truth, the edge in my voice was purposeful. It has always been true that the membership here is what makes the forum, and "we" (those of us who care to) set or accept a standard or norm by our own actions or acceptance of a certain standard. Hence, my use of the term standard with shavenlunatic. The mods can't be everywhere, and it is well established here that membership involvement is acceptable.
Those like kandrathe or Nico, who can and did withstand a mild shot across the bow in early discussions, are generally able to handle a great deal more downstream. Others with thinner skins can as well, but some folks in the "rice paper dermis" crowd are self doomed to feeling put upon with even the mildest of feedback or critique. (Pren's "self fulfilling prophecy" line in re lurking is a gem: is a Lurker necessarily a thin skinned critter?) Having had my arse chewed on more than once in my life, and having had my chops busted now and again, I know what it is like on the receiving end. Whining and pouting is not the smart way to deal with it.
Our shaven acquaintance showed us a little bit about himself with his comebacks, even to the milder rejoinders, and he will either come back or not, as he deems most appropriate for his own happiness and joy.
Works for me.
Note: Any guess as to why I assume the male gender for shaven? I'll bet a +1 defense grand charm on it.
Quote:And Occhi, if I may, I think I would have saved my wit for the second offense and been a bit more gentle to the first. You came down on Shavenlunatic pretty hard to start with. A mere thwack of the trout might have been more appropriate
You should have seen what I originally wrote, or maybe not. :rolleyes:
The real harshness was in the opening sally, so the tone setter was in the title. The title most likely would be taken by anyone as having been delivered with a certain "tone of voice." As Pren noted, the reaction to that tone could be predicted to create an "ears get red." It is a wake up call, and given the sloppy nature of internet discourse, a wake up call is needed, IMO.
Gekko points out correctly that this is not just any old forum, and those who want to treat it as such need not bother. In truth, the edge in my voice was purposeful. It has always been true that the membership here is what makes the forum, and "we" (those of us who care to) set or accept a standard or norm by our own actions or acceptance of a certain standard. Hence, my use of the term standard with shavenlunatic. The mods can't be everywhere, and it is well established here that membership involvement is acceptable.
Those like kandrathe or Nico, who can and did withstand a mild shot across the bow in early discussions, are generally able to handle a great deal more downstream. Others with thinner skins can as well, but some folks in the "rice paper dermis" crowd are self doomed to feeling put upon with even the mildest of feedback or critique. (Pren's "self fulfilling prophecy" line in re lurking is a gem: is a Lurker necessarily a thin skinned critter?) Having had my arse chewed on more than once in my life, and having had my chops busted now and again, I know what it is like on the receiving end. Whining and pouting is not the smart way to deal with it.
Our shaven acquaintance showed us a little bit about himself with his comebacks, even to the milder rejoinders, and he will either come back or not, as he deems most appropriate for his own happiness and joy.
Works for me.
Note: Any guess as to why I assume the male gender for shaven? I'll bet a +1 defense grand charm on it.
Cry 'Havoc' and let slip the Men 'O War!
In War, the outcome is never final. --Carl von Clausewitz--
Igitur qui desiderat pacem, praeparet bellum
John 11:35 - consider why.
In Memory of Pete
In War, the outcome is never final. --Carl von Clausewitz--
Igitur qui desiderat pacem, praeparet bellum
John 11:35 - consider why.
In Memory of Pete