Not sure why this made me laugh

[kandrathe]

Interestingly you have danced all around my thoughts on this matter. I feel If you are taught a proper grounded reality (in regards to sexuality, violence, video games, fantasy role playing games, etc) then you will not have problems in having fantasy influence your perception of reality.

My parents were fairly old fashioned when it came to teaching their children about sexuality, and so for me it was a vast learning adventure. Before I learned better, the little pornography I had seen or read did give me a distorted sense of reality. But I would say that once I started to experience and learn about the reality of sexuality, I quickly abandoned my false delusions.

I think there may be more danger in exposing adolescents to violence, namely the fantasy of being able to use violence to solve their problems. Mostly the risk of having wrong sexual expectations is either disappointment, or embarassement. But, the consequences of trying out learned violence may be extreme. I am frequently in discussions with other parents who are concerned about their adolescents playing Diablo, or other "dark", "evil related" or violent games. My advice to them is to judge how well their child has a grasp on what is real and what is fantasy. If they still aspire to be a Shaolin master of Kung-Fu, or believe that there are monsters in their closet or under their bed, then you'd best wait a little longer.