05-12-2011, 04:01 PM
Hi,
Sounds interesting. Let us know how it works out.
My parents never gave me an allowance. However, they 'paid' me for doing certain things -- note that doing them was totally my choice, they weren't "my chores". Typical things were dusting, vacuuming, cleaning a bathroom, doing a load of laundry, washing a day's dishes, etc. Later on, when we got a house with a yard, things like mowing the law, trimming hedges, etc. were added. I think it was a win-win situation, and I even got to the point where I'd negotiate additional work (e.g., the living room needs painting, what's it worth to you?)
I realize that it isn't the same thing, but it is in the same spirit. Rather than making chores an undesirable pastime, it made them an opportunity to achieve my goals. There was no nagging to do them, for they were not my assigned responsibility. And that is the real issue -- had it simply been "these are your chores and you get no allowance till you do them" the situation would have been entirely different. Then something for which I'd developed an expectation would have been taken from me. The way it was actually done, there were no expectations, just opportunities.
And the chores got done
--Pete
(05-12-2011, 03:05 PM)Tal Wrote: I've been giving it some thought and have decided to apply the concept of the first video towards helping my daughter learn responsibility and to assist around the house.
Sounds interesting. Let us know how it works out.
My parents never gave me an allowance. However, they 'paid' me for doing certain things -- note that doing them was totally my choice, they weren't "my chores". Typical things were dusting, vacuuming, cleaning a bathroom, doing a load of laundry, washing a day's dishes, etc. Later on, when we got a house with a yard, things like mowing the law, trimming hedges, etc. were added. I think it was a win-win situation, and I even got to the point where I'd negotiate additional work (e.g., the living room needs painting, what's it worth to you?)
I realize that it isn't the same thing, but it is in the same spirit. Rather than making chores an undesirable pastime, it made them an opportunity to achieve my goals. There was no nagging to do them, for they were not my assigned responsibility. And that is the real issue -- had it simply been "these are your chores and you get no allowance till you do them" the situation would have been entirely different. Then something for which I'd developed an expectation would have been taken from me. The way it was actually done, there were no expectations, just opportunities.
And the chores got done
--Pete
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