07-01-2003, 05:41 PM
It's too bad that it isn't as hard to HAVE kids as it is to RAISE them. A lot of these social problems wouldn't exist.
As it is, almost any fool can have kids, and usually does. Being financially successful doesn't automatically make you a good parent. Spending too much time at one's high-paying job, and partaking of the personal luxuries and perks that such a job can offer can make you a bad parent. That is assuming that an absent parent is a bad parent.
Some kids will be born with physical problems that will cause problems. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) typically results in behavioral problems. There are a number of other conditions that can result in effects that will cause a child to have problems while they are growing up.
BUT, I've seen cases where parents refuse to accept responsibility for the child's problems, and desperately seek a diagnosis for their child that absolves them of responsibility for their child's problems. From what I've seen, I believe most of these diagnosis to be BS.
But, gawd help you if you ever suggest that someone is a "Bad Parent". There aren't many things that will get someone more fired up than to suggest that their child's problems are a result of their upbringing.
As long as parents are allowed to believe that the most probably reason for their child's discipline problems are not a result of bad upbringing, opportunistic SOB's like THIS will continue to rip people off with their abusive and amateurish attempts at behavior modification. These places seem to have developed their techniques from descriptions of tactics used by the Japanese in WWII and the North Vietnamese in their POW camps. Before someone tells be that I'm blowing smoke outta my butt, I should say that I used to work in a hospital/residence for the mentally retarded, and did have occasion to carry out behavior mod. programs that were developed by real doctors. There is no resemblance to the description of what happens in these penal colonies -er- "Schools".
-rcv-
As it is, almost any fool can have kids, and usually does. Being financially successful doesn't automatically make you a good parent. Spending too much time at one's high-paying job, and partaking of the personal luxuries and perks that such a job can offer can make you a bad parent. That is assuming that an absent parent is a bad parent.
Some kids will be born with physical problems that will cause problems. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) typically results in behavioral problems. There are a number of other conditions that can result in effects that will cause a child to have problems while they are growing up.
BUT, I've seen cases where parents refuse to accept responsibility for the child's problems, and desperately seek a diagnosis for their child that absolves them of responsibility for their child's problems. From what I've seen, I believe most of these diagnosis to be BS.
But, gawd help you if you ever suggest that someone is a "Bad Parent". There aren't many things that will get someone more fired up than to suggest that their child's problems are a result of their upbringing.
As long as parents are allowed to believe that the most probably reason for their child's discipline problems are not a result of bad upbringing, opportunistic SOB's like THIS will continue to rip people off with their abusive and amateurish attempts at behavior modification. These places seem to have developed their techniques from descriptions of tactics used by the Japanese in WWII and the North Vietnamese in their POW camps. Before someone tells be that I'm blowing smoke outta my butt, I should say that I used to work in a hospital/residence for the mentally retarded, and did have occasion to carry out behavior mod. programs that were developed by real doctors. There is no resemblance to the description of what happens in these penal colonies -er- "Schools".
-rcv-