01-23-2004, 12:56 AM
I do have issues on this topic. You pressed my button and I reacted. :o
The pompous tone of your response suggesting that somehow your distaste for the procedure should take precedence over my child's needs in a setting that was clearly described as private domain (my friends' cottage) did upset me. Polite argument? You expressed your atavistic social mores in a way that implied you had every right to chastise me.
Like it or not, as you point out, some men never do learn to curb their instincts. "Oh look....a nursing mother! She is obviously fertile. Why, she would make a wonderful carrier for MY genes too!" On the other hand, they also learn to hide instinctive responses quite well under all manner of other circumstances, so it should not be too much of a stretch to manage it for this one too.
As Occhi pointed out, social conventions do differ. In your home, you get to dictate. In mine, I get to dictate. And in public, it depends on the rules of the land. In Saudi Arabia, you can bet I would hide under my cover-all robes and you would never have notice a thing.
I do suggest that you be careful when you make the same suggestion to the next nursing mother you meet. She might react just like I did. :lol:
The pompous tone of your response suggesting that somehow your distaste for the procedure should take precedence over my child's needs in a setting that was clearly described as private domain (my friends' cottage) did upset me. Polite argument? You expressed your atavistic social mores in a way that implied you had every right to chastise me.
Like it or not, as you point out, some men never do learn to curb their instincts. "Oh look....a nursing mother! She is obviously fertile. Why, she would make a wonderful carrier for MY genes too!" On the other hand, they also learn to hide instinctive responses quite well under all manner of other circumstances, so it should not be too much of a stretch to manage it for this one too.
As Occhi pointed out, social conventions do differ. In your home, you get to dictate. In mine, I get to dictate. And in public, it depends on the rules of the land. In Saudi Arabia, you can bet I would hide under my cover-all robes and you would never have notice a thing.
I do suggest that you be careful when you make the same suggestion to the next nursing mother you meet. She might react just like I did. :lol:
And you may call it righteousness
When civility survives,
But I've had dinner with the Devil and
I know nice from right.
From Dinner with the Devil, by Big Rude Jake
When civility survives,
But I've had dinner with the Devil and
I know nice from right.
From Dinner with the Devil, by Big Rude Jake